20 Practical Tips to Survive the Infant Witching Hour
Hey there, fellow mamas!
Have you ever wondered why your usually sweet baby suddenly seems inconsolable at roughly the same time each evening?
You're not alone. This puzzling phenomenon is commonly known as the "witching hour," and it's something many parents face.
Don't worry; you're doing a great job, and this phase is totally normal even though it’s super draining.
Here’s what you need to know to navigate this stage while maintaining your sanity.
What is the Infant Witching Hour?
The term "witching hour" can be a bit misleading—it usually lasts several hours!
Typically occurring in late afternoon and early evening, this period is when your baby may cry more than usual, seem overly fussy, or just won’t settle no matter what tricks you try.
Why Does The Witching Hour Happen?
Experts believe several factors might contribute to this phase.
During these hours, babies are often overtired from the stimuli and activities of the day.
They could also be experiencing a build-up of gas or simply need more attention as they start to understand the world around them a bit more each day.
20 Expert Tips for Managing the Witching Hour
Keep a Routine:
Babies thrive on predictability. A soothing routine before the usual start of the witching hour can work wonders.
Think gentle baths, soft music, or a quiet feeding session.
Tag Team:
If possible, share the responsibilities with a partner or another caregiver during this time.
Taking turns can prevent exhaustion and provide each caregiver a much-needed break to recharge.
Keep a Gratitude Journal:
Each day, write down three things you are grateful for about motherhood.
This can help shift your focus from the stress of the witching hour to the joys and rewards of parenting, even on tough days.
Swaddle and Snuggle:
Sometimes, all your baby wants is to feel safe and close to you.
Swaddling can mimic the snugness of the womb. Coupling this with cuddles can sometimes calm the storm.
Practice Radical Acceptance:
Accept that the witching hour is a challenging part of the day and it’s okay to feel overwhelmed.
Acknowledge your feelings without judgment and recognize that this doesn't make you a less capable or loving parent.
Engage in Quiet Play:
Engaging in gentle play activities can sometimes distract and calm your baby.
Simple activities like showing colorful pictures, slow puppet play, or soft-textured toys can capture their attention and reduce fussiness.
Use Visualization Techniques:
Visualize a calm and peaceful outcome to stressful situations.
This can help you maintain a calm demeanor, which can be incredibly soothing to your baby as well.
Use White Noise:
A consistent sound can help soothe a fussy baby.
White noise machines or even a simple fan can mask other noises and gently lull your baby toward calmness.
Go for a Walk:
Change of scenery can do as much good for you as for your baby.
Strap your little one in a stroller or a carrier and take a walk around the neighborhood.
Rule Out Discomfort:
Sometimes the fussiness is due to discomfort.
Check if your baby needs a diaper change, is too hot or too cold, or might be experiencing reflux or gas.
Practice Gentle Massage:
A gentle massage can be relaxing for both of you.
Using a safe, baby-friendly oil, gently massage your baby’s back, arms, legs, and feet. This can help with digestion, ease tension, and promote relaxation.
Use A Baby Swing or Rocker:
Sometimes gentle, consistent motion can soothe a fussy baby.
A baby swing or rocker can mimic the rhythmic rocking they felt in the womb.
Try A Warm Bath:
A warm bath can be soothing for some babies, especially if they're feeling tense or overstimulated.
Just ensure the water temperature is comfortable and safe, and keep the bathing time brief if they're tired.
Feed in a Quiet, Dimly Lit Room:
If it’s close to feeding time, try feeding your baby in a quiet, dimly lit room.
This can help them relax and might ease them into sleep after feeding without getting overtired.
Practice Positive Self-Talk:
Remind yourself that this phase is temporary and you are doing the best you can.
Positive affirmations like "I am a patient and loving mom" or "Each moment of calm I create is a success" can help maintain a positive mindset.
Establish a Support Network:
Connect with other moms who are going through similar experiences.
Whether it's through social media groups, local mom meet-ups, or just texting a friend, sharing your experiences can provide relief and valuable tips.
Take Deep Breaths:
When things get overwhelming, pause and take a few deep breaths.
Deep breathing can help reduce stress levels and increase your patience, allowing you to better soothe your baby.
Set Realistic Goals:
Accept that some days will be harder than others and set manageable expectations for yourself and your household.
Acknowledge and celebrate small victories to help boost your morale.
Set Boundaries:
It's okay to say no to additional demands during this time.
Prioritize your and your baby's well-being by setting boundaries with visitors or other responsibilities that can wait.
Don’t try to multi-task during this time - focus solely on maintaining your sanity and a calm demeanor.
Seek Professional Support:
If the stress of the witching hour feels overwhelming, consider speaking to a postpartum therapist or counselor.
They can provide strategies specifically tailored to your situation, helping you manage stress and maintain emotional health.
It’s Not Just You
Remember, this phase is a common part of infancy. It doesn't reflect on your skills or love as a mom.
All babies go through this, and it's okay to find it challenging. Talk to other moms—you'll likely hear plenty of stories that resonate with your own.
When to Seek Help
If your baby's crying seems excessive or is accompanied by other symptoms like fever, vomiting, or diarrhea, it might be time to call your pediatrician.
It's always better to be safe and get reassurances from a professional.
Takeaways: You've Got This!
The witching hour can be tough. It tests your patience and stamina, but like every challenging phase, it passes.
Soon, your little one will outgrow this stage, and you'll have navigated yet another adventure of parenthood.
Stay strong, trust your instincts, and take care of yourself too. After all, a happy parent equals a happy baby.
Hang in there, you're doing an incredible job!
With love and solidarity,
Are you struggling with your baby’s witching hour? I can help!
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