I remember sitting in my car outside mommy-and-me class, mindlessly scrolling through Instagram while eating cold french fries.

Inside, a group of moms were laughing together, their babies crawling around on the play mat.

I wanted so badly to join them, but… what if they already had their group?

What if I didn’t fit in?

Finding mom friends can feel like climbing Mount Everest in flip-flops.

Trust me - both as a mom and a therapist, I’ve lived this struggle and heard it from countless other mothers in my practice.

Between 3 AM feedings, endless loads of laundry, and trying to remember if we actually brushed our teeth today (no judgment!), making new friends often falls to the bottom of our to-do list. I get it.

But here’s what I’ve learned: those connections with other moms?

They’re like oxygen.

They’re the difference between crying alone in your bathroom at 2 AM with a colicky baby, and having someone to text who’ll respond, “I’m awake too - want to FaceTime?”

If you’re reading this and feeling that knot in your stomach about putting yourself out there - I see you.

The fear of rejection doesn’t magically disappear just because we’ve become moms.

But I promise you this: there are other moms out there, probably scrolling through their phones right now, wishing for a friend just like you.

Let me share some real, practical ways I’ve helped my clients (and myself!) find their mom tribe…

10 Tips to Making Mom Friends

1. Start Small

You don’t need a hundred friends. Even one or two genuine connections can make a world of difference.

Start by looking at the people already in your life.

Is there a mom at your child’s school drop-off who always smiles at you?

Or maybe a neighbor who also has kids? A simple “Hi” or compliment can break the ice.

2. Say Yes to Invitations

It’s tempting to say no to that playdate invite or mom’s night out because you’re tired.

But saying yes opens doors.

These moments are often where friendships begin.

You don’t have to stay long—just showing up is half the battle.

3. Find Local Mom Groups

Community centers, libraries, and social media are great places to find mom groups.

Join one that matches your interests, like a stroller walking group or a book club for moms.

If nothing stands out, consider starting your own group!

You’d be surprised how many other moms are also looking for connection.

4. Chat at Kid-Friendly Places

Parks, indoor play areas, and birthday parties are goldmines for meeting other moms.

Strike up a conversation while your kids are playing. Ask questions like, “How old is your little one?” or “What’s your favorite park in town?”

It’s casual, low-pressure, and often leads to more.

5. Be Vulnerable

Friendships grow when we’re real.

Share your struggles and victories as a mom.

It’s easy to compare ourselves to the highlight reels we see on social media, but being honest about the hard days makes others feel safe to open up too.

6. Use Social Media Wisely

Facebook groups and Instagram communities can connect you to moms nearby.

Search for local “mom” groups in your area and join in.

Many of these groups host in-person events.

If you find someone online who seems like a good match, don’t hesitate to send a friendly message.

7. Get Involved at School or Church

Volunteering is a fantastic way to meet moms who share your values.

Whether it’s helping with a class project or joining a ministry at church, these shared experiences build natural connections.

8. Be Patient

Friendships take time. It’s okay if you don’t click with someone right away.

Keep putting yourself out there, and you’ll find people who align with your personality and values.

Don’t give up after one awkward coffee date—it gets easier with practice.

9. Embrace the Awkwardness

Let’s be real. Making friends as an adult can feel awkward. It’s okay!

If a conversation feels stilted or you fumble over your words, keep going.

Moms are often too busy to notice. Plus, they’re probably just as nervous as you are.

10. Be the Friend You Want

Kindness and effort go a long way.

Reach out to check in on someone you’ve met. Offer to bring coffee to the park or drop off a small treat when they’re having a rough day.

Being thoughtful creates lasting bonds.

Why Mom Friends Matter

You know what still makes me tear up?

The day my mom friend Megan showed up unannounced with coffee and muffins after I’d posted a 3 AM “is this normal?” question in our group chat.

She just sat with me, validated my sleep-deprived worries, and reminded me I wasn’t losing my mind.

That’s what mom friends do.

They’re not just people to grab coffee with - they’re your 2 AM text support, your “yes, my kid did that too” reassurance, and your “you’re actually crushing this” cheerleaders when you’re convinced you’re messing everything up.

They get why you’re wearing two different shoes and haven’t washed your hair in… well, let’s not count the days.

I’ve seen it countless times in my therapy practice - moms who think they’re the only ones struggling, until they connect with other mothers who share their raw, unfiltered stories.

That’s when the healing starts.

Listen, I know it feels vulnerable to put yourself out there.

That first “hey, wanna grab coffee sometime?” text might sit in your drafts for days.

But as someone who’s been on both sides of this journey - as a mom and as a therapist - I promise you: that scary first step is worth it.

Because somewhere out there is another mom, maybe scrolling through her phone right now, hoping to find a friend just like you.

Ready to take that first step?

Let’s do this together.

With love and solidarity,

Do you need support making new mom friends? Let’s connect!

As a therapist for moms, I can give you tips and strategies to create lasting friendships.

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10 Simple Tips for Making Mom Friends